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Culture War Roundup for the week of June 2, 2025

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Upon checking you're right that I'm exaggerating the risks.

Meta-analyses revealed that the incidence of postpartum urinary incontinence was 26% [95%CI: (21% ~ 30%)]

So not having it isn't "uncommon", but having it is still common enough I'm definitely lucky.

(The odds during pregnancy are 45/55 so basically a coin toss, but I lost that coin toss so...)

I'd guess the most likely reason you don't hear about it is women are embarrassed to talk about it with you. It's definitely treated as an open secret between women, now that you know about it you may discover yourself catching some jokes on the topic you previously missed. For example if they make an oblique reference to what happens when they sneeze.

youre pretty much describing panic attacks here. If you want to "get over it", try this: Instead of fearing that it will suck, imagine it would for sure be like your last time again. It would for sure suck. A few years later, youre sitting at a large table full of children. Will you be ok?

This is a reasonably good approach, thanks. It doesn't really help my fear of things going much worse, but it definitely makes me feel less anxious about things going the same.

I think I qualify in the "urinary incontinence" bracket, but it's just when I have a very, very bad cold at a specific time of my cycle, and I'm able to wear a regular pad to deal with it. About as inconvenient as a period. This seems to be the most common version.

My wife has this, and I think it is a major (though certainly not the only) contributor to why she wanted to be one and done (my preference was for more).

I assume your wife has already gone to a physical therapist specializing in women's pelvic floors, but just in case she hasn't I am mentioning it anyway as something she should try. Everyone knows about kegels but physical therapists can help suggest other exercises and help with doing kegels more effectively.

Not saying it will solve the problem entirely but it can lessen the severity/frequency for some women.

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