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(I legitimately don’t remember who’s a parent or not, don’t get offended) uhh, have you ever watched a toddler? There’s some picking kids up(that may not want to be) involved, and running after them and the like. And cleaning houses is similar- lots of bending over, moving things out of the way. Neither one is conducive to poor-health based physical unfitness, although they don’t need a power lifter.
How dare you??? I have 11 youngins you whippersnapper!!!
Nah, don't have kids yet. I am largely unsympathetic to people with chronic health issues as I've said elsewhere. I'll tag you.
Look, I do a sedentary office job as administrative support. The heaviest things I carry are a bunch of files. I use my hands and arms for typing.
And I had a upper spinal disc problem (yes it showed up on x-ray so no I wasn't imagining or pretending) that meant I had terrible pain that started in my neck, gradually went down my arm, and ended up at the knuckles every single day and night for a prolonged period of time. It genuinely felt like my arm was on fire and I couldn't sleep because of the pain. My doctor didn't put me on painkillers (no idea why, unless it was 'don't want to facilitate addiction') so I was dosing myself up with over-the-counter analgesics (I sincerely believe I may have borked my liver the amounts I was taking for relief, plus I managed through other means to source tablets containing codeine which did permit me to sleep by reducing the pain to a dull roar) and I genuinely feared I wouldn't be able to work, because the pain made it impossible to use my hands.
Fortunately, the trapped nerve or whatever eventually untrapped itself or died or something so the pain stopped.
And that was just for a damn "sit at a desk and type emails etc." job. Imagine if I was doing anything even a bit more labour-intensive requiring dexterity or strength.
So just wait until you get old enough, or over-exert yourself enough, to run into a chronic health issue then come back with the same opinion.
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