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Culture War Roundup for the week of December 5, 2022

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trans men are pretty new to a lot of people's radars.

There's a darkly humorous irony there. Transmen hitting the point where they're completely ignored and no one acknowledges their existence is a big sign that they've made it and are passing. Welcome to manhood, brother, no one gives a fuck, have a beer and deal with it.

Ah, sorry, that is the case to some limited extent in a few subcultures now -- furry treatment of the topic isn't great, but it's closer to the 'have a beer and deal with it' than anything else -- the post I'm linking to is more about a period where it was not really understood as a possibility, even for people who did not pass and were recognized. There were some places that were aware enough: eg, Norah Vincent's Self Made Man is further complicated by her own politics, but recognized the possibility of a "man trapped in the wrong body", as did some NPR interviews with her. But a lot of places could and did just treat as butch female, and not in a 'just one of the guys' tomboys extent even then.

There's a "funny" corollary to that with detransitioners, where everybody's focused on the harm done to FtMtFs, while MtFtM's tend to get the "have a beer and deal with it" treatment.

This is somewhat justified with FtMs being the majority of trans people, but given their invisibility while trans, your theory is probably more likely to be correct.

FtMs are the majority? Maybe recently but historically the ratio is 10:1 in favour of MtFs

Yes. They now outnumber MtF 3:1. The recent flip in age and gender ratios, combined with the exponential increase in referrals, is one of the big arguments for the social contagion theory.

Wow that’s a crazy reversal. Probably the largest and quickest in the history of psychiatry

Welcome to manhood, brother, no one gives a fuck, have a beer and deal with it.

Obligatory Norah Vincent reference.