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Lost and overwhelmed.
My wife (20 years) and and have been having marital difficulties, I believe she's depressed and has become involved in some online extremist communities. Her online 'persona' had been bleeding through in real life more and more.
Yesterday being the netadmin for my own network I undertook a block of many of the apps and sites.
Today while she was collecting our 4 children from vacation bible school, I saw she had left her laptop open. She'd been very secretive with it recently. I snooped.
She's been sending bitcoin to someone in control of an @aol.com address apparently believing she's arranging an in person meeting with Elon Musk, who she says in her email she has been in contact with for a while. They're expecting 10k for a meeting with Elon.
She's refusing to see a therapist alone or with me, she's refused to see a psychiatrist.
Anyone encountered anything like this?
Any suggestions?
If you have the capacity, you might consider talking to a therapist for yourself, partially because this is a lot to deal with, and partially because they may be more familiar with resources and ideas that may be helpful to her.
It probably isn't much, but you have my sympathies and prayers, anonymous internet friend.
I've been meeting with our pastor weekly for several weeks now.
Today during the crisis intervention counseling she agreed to both individual therapy / psychiatric care beginning tomorrow, and couples / marital counseling at a TBD date.
Amazing news. I will pray for your marriage.
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