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Welp, 9 week visit went poorly, we're probably going to have another miscarriage, we'll know for sure in a couple weeks. I looked up the odds, seems like there is only like a 30% chance the problem is some kind of chromosomal thing that makes us totally inviable.
We found out a couple weeks ago my sister is expecting her second in January, they would have been similar ages. We're going to another baby shower in a couple weeks. This really sucks.
That sucks indeed. Sympathies.
When we just considered having children, the doc told us it wouldn't work out. Just plain not biologically in the cards for her. So we considered one life choice taken away from us, but what can you do, shrug and embrace the irresponsible lifestyle. And then the doc turned out to have been wrong. Life finds a way, it seems. And then, all my wife's fretting and panic nonwithstanding, the pregnancy went off without a major hitch, and we got a fairly healthy kid out of it. And now we are a highly dysfunctional family that barely scrapes by and I don't want to even think about the issues the kid will have in her teenage years.
Children go not to the most deserving, or the best prepared, or the most suitable, or those who most want them. Life isn't fair, and deals out kisses and gut punches almost entirely at random, as far as we mere humans can perceive.
How do you intend to deal with it?
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