The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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Most pleasant ${CurrentYear} dating experience. Things are bleak when even neurodivergent nerdy girls in their early 30s act like spoiled children.
Date a nerdy girl, they said. There's less drama with nerdy girls and they won't play mean-girl head-games like the sorority girl types, they said.
Date a woman in her 30s, they said. Women in their 30s are more mature and level-headed than younger women whose brains haven't even fully developed yet, they said.
I kind of admire the chutzpah in a way. Have you stopped beating your wife?
Never apologize when there's nothing to apologize for. It's just an admission of guilt and leaves more chum in the water for sharks.
This reminds me of why I've never thought of social circles as a reliable/renewable dating source, and generally play it relatively conservatively when I do make an attempt. A failed attempt with a chick in your social circle, even without her slandering you afterward, can lead to your reputation being tainted and ruin future chances with other chicks in your social circle due to female mate-choice copying. If she slanders you afterward, that could mean you gaining pariah-status and getting excommunicated from the social circle altogether.
She's not really part of my social circle, she just goes to the same pub my RPG club meets at. She vaguely knows one person I know, and I definitionally don't want to fuck any woman in her social circle.
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