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naraburns  nihil supernum  1yr ago (text post)   3197 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 15, 2023

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What's the strangest thing that someone has ever told you was attractive about you? The strangest thing you've found yourself attracted to in someone else?

Once someone was immensely impressed by the fact that I carried a phone without a case.

As for me, big dark frame glasses raise anyone 2 whole points for me, gets me every time. Blame Mrs FiveHour.

Confounder to be aware of when discussing this. Halo effect. People might say they really like X in general but it might just be that they like X in a person they are already into, or if the person is already otherwise attractive. Associations apply too.

But anyways. One of the girls I used to see really had a thing for my hands. The amount of times she brought that up was borderline annoying. In heated moments she used to ruin it with some variation of "your hands". She probably had upper body equivalent of a foot fetish. Im sure there is some cynical explanation for this as well. Ive had other girls telling me they want to bite my hands and one actually did it unprompted, so I should probably stay away from heavy machinery. For the record I dont notice anything special about my hands.

The strangest thing I am attracted to in a woman is the skin of her face. More specifically if the skin isn't entirely blemish free. A few very small moles here and there is a plus, but only if they are so small that you can see them if you are less than 2 feet from their face. I think oddly the reason for this is video games and movies. As I was growing up I associated "High definition" content with being able to notice textures in skin. So if someone has a few blemishes they are HD for me.

Women liking hands and forearms is pretty common

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