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Uh, okay.
I mean, you do you and I hope this gives you whatever you are looking for, but for myself, I have occasionally considered joining a church (again) for the community and such, but I am just fundamentally incapable of lying to myself, and also fundamentally incapable of believing in mythology. So to attend a church knowing that I consider all their beliefs (at least on the spiritual and metaphysical and cosmological level) to be bullshit would just feel like I'm being an insincere actor. To say nothing of the LDS's ... well... utterly nonsensical prehistory.
Yeah, I'm aware most churches (including the LDS) would be happy to have me in the congregation even as a disbeliever. I can see the pull it has for you personally (hot, chaste young girls eager for marriage and babies). But for me personally it would still feel deeply dishonest.
@self_made_human made some good points. Most missionary churches are geared towards picking up young disaffected people like you. And I don't underestimate the power to "fake it til you make it." Eventually you may come to sincerely believe.
I will say all the Mormons I know are very pleasant people and if I were to consider a church and could overlook not having a speck of faith in me, I'd consider the LDS strongly. (Honestly the greatest trial for me in terms of adhering to their rules would be giving up coffee.)
But the lack of faith and the requirement to at least pretend to believe a lot of bullshit things would be a dealbreaker for me.
I kind of feel like you're someone entering a cult, eyes wide open, saying "Sure, I see their game, but it won't work on me," even as the bait is perfectly obvious. But there are worse cults to fall in with, I guess.
Good luck.
A paragraph I could've written myself. Never been a smoker and giving up alcohol wasn't too bad, but my morning coffee is often the best part of the day.
I’ve switched to Yerba Mate (which is fully permitted under current doctrine) and it has not been a major step down. Eventually I might try and find some sort of caffeine powder (I know there are caffeine pills, but the ones I’ve seen are like 200mg, which is a massive amount to consume all at once) to mix into water or something, to reduce my sugar consumption.
Big fan of caffeine pills. I agree about 200mg being too big. You can buy 100mg or even 40-50mg. Pills exist in many sizes, though at the smaller end, there's more of strips/mints/gums. It's also not hard to cut pills, or even to buy powder and diy some gel caps.
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