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I have minor concerns about the advice given by the psychiatrist, but I'll hold back since I don't have the full picture and you're already doing the important things, like getting her speech and occupational therapy. The symptomatic improvement is heartening, and I can only hope it persists, And I do agree that this is more likely to be autism than ADHD (not that the two are mutually exclusive), and the presentation can be rather different in girls, which makes diagnosis unfortunately challenging.
I wish I had more specific advice to give in regards to where to seek therapy, but it's so US-dependent I wouldn't know where to start. I'd hope your psychiatrist and psychologist could point you the right way. In the meantime, please take care of yourself, I hope the dizziness is transient, but you've evidently been under an immense amount of pressure for a while. You might need a moment to breathe, and accept that some real hurdles have been overcome.
While I don't think a formal diagnosis is strictly necessary to absolve you of guilt, it's still a practically useful thing! Less judgement, not that you deserved any, and more access to resources at the least. I hope this keeps working out.
I think the diagnosis will help some. Every time I commented here about A, I would always receive some well-meaning, "What punishments are you using when A acts out?" like I've never considered trying the normal parental levers of behavioral adjustment. It's also been challenging to get a babysitter but now we can use the magic words and hire someone twice as expensive but who knows what they're in for.
It's funny though how some people are. My mother called me and the first words were, "Are you sure it was a doctor who diagnosed her? Did they test her for at least 8 hours?" She kept grilling me about what happened before she was satisfied that it was a genuine diagnosis and then she didn't seem to have much to say.
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