The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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Ok, never ever be the male best friend for a woman you have a romantic interest in. Yes, you'd be happier if she broke up with the cheating grad student to go out with you. That's unlikely to happen, you need to cut off the friendship.
I'll suggest that the best way to do that is to offer her this. If she says no, you have the problem of how to cut off the friendship pretty much solved. If she says yes, you have a girlfriend. You can just do things, that's the secret behind 'nice guys finish last'.
I’m not interested in this particular women. She is a long term friend from undergrad.
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