The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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Good on you for putting yourself out there. I find events like these to be one of the best places to find a girlfriend. Mainly because you can very quickly rule out women that you don't like and move on to the next. On apps this can take days or weeks and cost even more money.
Its very normal to not connect with someone you're talking to at a singles event. I suggest (if there is a next time) that you keep practicing approaching woman that you find interesting from a distance. Otherwise, yes you will have people approach you that might not be your first choice. Approach anxiety is incredibly common and takes some time to overcome. For me it took years.
Don't be angry at yourself for spending $40. Think of how much time and money it would have cost to have a date with those two women only to find out you weren't compatible. Not to mention the rest of the experience you gained in mingling and pushing yourself in these types of environments.
I understand you don't want to do anything like it ever again, but its difficult to find alternatives that provide such a target rich environment. If it helps, many people feel the same way you do at events like that. That they are dehumanising, stressful and frustrating. Its either put up with it as a necessary evil or accept a slower paced stream of potential partners through other avenues.
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