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PaperclipPerfector  11mo ago (text post)   3102 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for November 2, 2025

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The absence of specific articles is probably due to the effect documented in The Sixth Meditation on Superweapons. You noticed what was Actually Being Said, not the literal words on the screen.

Here is an eleven-year-old reddit thread that mentions the phenomenon (written by a woman asking why men don't give up), so what you're describing is something that definitely existed at the time you're talking about:

However, if women are going to pretty much shut down every avenue for approaching them (bars ["I just want to hang out with my friends"], clubs ["I just want to dance!"], bookstores ["Don't interrupt my reading!"], grocery stores ["I HAVE to go here, don't bother me."], classes/workshops ["I'm here to learn, only!"], etc), what avenues ARE available for meeting women organically (eg. not via dating website/match-makers)?

There's also this classic compare-and-contrast of the headlines of Jessica Valenti's opinion pieces.

Thank you, but I have to say, that second link does not sound like an actual woman, more like a dude making a point.

Try this link.

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