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PaperclipPerfector  3d ago (text post)   844 thread views

Wellness Wednesday for November 5, 2025

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So, my birthday is tomorrow. Any advice for fighting the "birthday blues"? Particularly around feelings of having wasted one's life, being an utter failure as a human being, and yet likely still having so many more (pointless, futile) years ahead to suffer through?

I'm in favor of both birthday themed workouts, adjusted to whatever level or style you like, with an arbitrary number related to your age.

This year, I was working late, and for various personal crisis reasons I didn't really want to do anything major, so I told my wife I wanted to get a little high and get a big takeout order of boneless wings and watch an old horror movie. While this was hardly the world's most decadent thing, it was a clear indulgence, and it was exactly what I wanted.

This year, I was working late, and for various personal crisis reasons I didn't really want to do anything major, so I told my wife I wanted to get a little high and get a big takeout order of boneless wings and watch an old horror movie.

I can't begin to describe how bad this bit of humble-bragging on your part makes me feel.

Sorry. I was trying to give an example of something low key. Guess I need to aim lower.

At this point, "a big takeout order of boneless wings" is almost Roman emperor levels of decadence given their cost.

Is it? I recall it being $20 with a minor tip for a couple pounds. Which I guess isn't nothing.

Idk maybe this is my how much could a banana be.

It's not just that he can afford takeout;

This year, I was working late

tells us he has a job, and

I told my wife

tells us he has a wife.

I don't wish to be unkind, but I think you need to take a step back from your own perspective on this one. I'm sure you are pretty unhappy about not having a job or a wife, but that doesn't make it "bragging" when someone else mentions those things about their life in passing. Nor is it very helpful to bite someone's head off when they were trying to help you. This is a situation where even if it made you feel bad, the right thing to do is to remind yourself that they weren't trying to take a dig at you and let it go.

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