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Sure. Let me know what you think about OG PUA master named Giacomo Casanova I mentioned in my other reply. Does he fit your criteria of womanizing teacher?
Plus how does picking and fucking desperate girls not fit the disgusting PUA style? I know of a guy who back in oughts created a bot contacting all the women on dating platform with a rude message akin to - hey do you want to fuck - as an experiment. He had maybe 1 in a 1000 response, some of them even from very attractive girls, although I'd wager they were all crazy. Maybe in their manic phase of BPD or some other shit. I know of a guy from the West who rented an expensive car back in early 1990s, and who went on fucking spree in Eastern Europe for pennies, and he even evaded having his teeth kicked in by local village heroes, mostly by copious amount of bribes and rounds paid. But hey, what works works - right?
How does any of this equal paying for sex with canned beans and coffee in a famine?
In the same way inviting some local girl for a drink while flashing you borrowed Omega watches and designer cloths bought on credit works right now in a bar. A promise of stability and bright future of plenty of money/food if only they fuck you, and then discarding them like a dirty rag.
By the way, this whole PUA topic is disgusting to me as I am Christian. But there has to be some reality check.
Stability and bright future of plenty of money/food as opposed to not starving to death. Got it.
These were not whores, just regular girls. A can of beans was not payment for sex for a prostitute, but elaborate ploy in game of affection, accompanied with promises of eternal love and poetry from a married husband, who was set to leave day after tomorrow back to his family in USA to be demobilized. It was a game.
How naive are you? Or maybe even better - how cynical are you in your pretentiousness?
Regular girls will whore themselves out for canned beans and coffee among ruins and during famine, which is a rather understandable and unsurprising state of affairs. If your argument is specifically about GIs making false marriage proposals then I have nothing to comment on, because you’d be hard-pressed to find any PUA guide anywhere that advises you to do such a thing.
Is there no PUA guide that walks western passport bros on how to get a concubine in Africa or other 3rd world country for what would basically be a can of beans at home, utilizing desperate material conditions for their benefit? Again I am no expert, but I am quite confident that such a thing has to exist.
I've read a few PUA books and watched some passport bro videos as well as documentaries about those agencies that try to connect Western men with foreign brides (out of curiosity, no, really), and while the subtext that "You are relatively affluent and can pull a woman who'd be out of your league back home" is always there, nobody actually puts it as bluntly as "Get a concubine for a can of beans" and I honestly don't think most of these men are looking for that. They might or might not actually want a long-term relationship/wife, but they don't just want to find a pretty girl desperate enough to sleep with them for a meal. That's just sex tourism, and while the Venn diagram of "passport bros" and "sex tourists" certainly has some overlap, they are not the same.
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