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Not really endorsing your post, but there is a REAL problem with women refusing to advertise their 'true' status in any way that might give up the game before a guy invests attention in her. Even being on a dating app isn't proof positive that she's available and serious.
Girls will have dozens of photos on Insta of just herself in various states of dress and undress, and you'll only find out she has a boyfriend after you've been texting sporadically back and forth for a month (happened to me recently).
Of course the wannabe SBs and the OF purveyors want to hide that until they think they've got you invested enough to slide down the sales funnel.
Yet even 'honest' girls will elide their current relationship status insofar as they'll neglect to mention their ongoing FWB situations or that they're still pining over a guy back home and they'd drop everything to move back there with him (also happened to me). Why not, you know, include him in some photos or at least acknowledge that he's there?
A guy might not know exactly what sort of woman he pulled until 3-6 months into the interaction. Its maddening.
When I learned that the Germans used to have a traditional method for women to advertise their availability I got kinda mad that we don't use similar systems any more.
As a result, it is utterly rational for a guy to assume there's a hidden caveat when a girl 'presents' as single but isn't really open about what that means to her. And that means withholding investment until he is reassured she's actually available and isn't about to spring the "please pay my rent this month" trap.
From her perspective, even if she's fairly confident (tentatively, at least) she'd like to stay faithful to her current relationship or situationship, why prematurely cutoff a vector for attention, a potential orbiter, or another "break-glass-in-case-of-emergency" backup in the event she does decide to cheat or monkey branch away from her current dick-provider?
Sometimes you might even bang a girl only to find out weeks, months, or years later that she had a boyfriend at the time, was engaged, or was/is married.
Another reason why not to get too attached to any one prospect; why to aim to get the bang with any particular prospect as soon as possible.
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Certainly is. Women who's entire profile is '@instabae' or 'I'm hardly ever on here, come find me on monetised-thirsttrap.com/teehee'.
Back in the day, the pump and dump was weaponised against women like this (gold-diggers etc) with a very very large amount of collateral damage.
It sure feels like whenever you enter a digital conversation with (what appears to be) an attractive woman, there's like 50-50 odds that there'll be a reveal that this is just the top of her sales funnel once you've actually engaged.
No, I will not follow your insta, snap, telegram, join your discord, or subscribe to your Patreon or Substack.
And even the ones that don't... tend to not care that the general goal of such convos used to be meeting up in person. I've heard the term "rain check" too many times in the past few months.
I strongly encourage people to take breaks from OLD (or even dating in general) when they feel burnout. You won't be at your best when burnt out and frankly it feels horrible to keep engaging when you've had a bad run.
Yeah, but its even happening with women I have I know from other places too. Drawn out text convos then withdrawal/avoidance when I try to get to the brass tacks.
And I'll go ahead and up the stakes to say "do not use Online Dating, its simply not worth the psychic damage."
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