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naraburns  nihil supernum  1yr ago (text post)   2664 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for February 3, 2023

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Some choice gender differences:

Statements most disproportionately agreed upon by women

(number in parentheses is the difference in score between women and men)

  • I prefer written pornography to visual. (1.74)

  • I keep a journal. (1.21)

  • I would feel violated if I learned that my opposite-sex friend was imagining what I would be like to have sex with. (1.19)

Statements most disproportionately agreed upon by men

  • The primary reason I interact with Aella's web presence is a (dimly) conscious desire to do something sexual with her. (1.93)

  • I often imagine having sex with stranger I see in public. (1.79)

  • I would bang a hot 15yo if I had enthusiastic consent and a certainty of getting away with it (1.58)

I would feel violated if I learned that my opposite-sex friend was imagining what I would be like to have sex with.

It's statements like this one that make me think men and women live on different planets. Is it not fair to say that, if you're a good looking woman, almost all of the men you meet will, at some point, imagine having sex with you? Why do women not know this?

It sometimes surprises me what women don't know about men. On the other hand, every once in a while a woman will shock me by telling me about how often they experience sexual harassment or get marriage proposals, and then I realize I am also very ignorant of what it is like to be a woman.

I don't like to be around weapons of any sort (guns, bows, swords; only counting things made as weapons, not e.g. cleavers)

This doesn't surprise me now, but I was very confused as a teenager when I showed a girl I liked a nail gun my friend made that I thought was really cool and she had a negative reaction.

It does seem the case -- I'm left wondering what women think about when they are jerking off? I can count the women I've known who wouldn't be freaked out if you told them you fantasized about them on one hand -- I never thought to ask them what they fantasized about at the time, and it would be kind of weird to ask them now. So IDK -- is it just a massive blind spot?

The recurring themes seem to be about being desirable and being desired (in the way that they desire best). The countervailing horror, beyond being undesirable, is that they're being desired in all the ways they desire least.

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