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PaperclipPerfector  3d ago (text post)   1944 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for January 11, 2026

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I don't think I need a therapist but I am curious - how would one find the right movie? I mean, actual movies have re views, trailers, etc. What do the therapists have? I never even seen an ad for a therapist ever - are they even allowed?

I mean, I can't even tell you how to get the right doctor. Shit is hard as fuck.

Lots of people use word of mouth within an IRL social network or via something like Facebook. You can find lists in your area or otherwise online (and with Telehealth...world is your oyster). Many people are already seeing an MD for med management and they have referral networks. More so than general medicine getting something that matches your insurance is harder since so many do cash, which in that case you gotta match the financial resources.

On top of those considerations you have an element of "if this one doesn't work for you, try someone else."

Frustratingly many people stop after the first one or continue with the first one even if it's not a good match.

Shit is hard as fuck.

Sigh, tell me about it. Next to impossible, unfortunately I have some experience. Same goes for most of professionals, unfortunately, but at least some have reviews and portfolios (not a guarantee but at least something...) Good thing at least I don't need that one, it would frustrate me to no end.

I can tell you that on the healthcare end of things the issue is that the people who want to be serious about "shopping" over focus on customer service and end up with awful care as a result.

In many other types of engagements customer service is a large part of the service so I imagine it is a bit easier.

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