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Noticing that tendency is pretty much why I'm not in any kind of corporate work today. Because I figured there was a quota system in place and I didn't much want to find myself participating in it at the wrong moment. Today, of course, it could just as well be the opposite, but I don't want to be at the mercy of the wheel.
But this very much didn't stop me from achieving the goal of making a decent living.
Most advice that revolves around either women or men just losing the weight or just putting in more work or just settling for what they can get falls into the fundamental problem that everyone has never just and they won't do it tomorrow either.
I just don't like seeing my people blackpill.
The huge irony is that my boss is a woman, and my workplace overall is slanted towards female employees. But since she's an utterly remorseless businesswoman who grinds it out in the trenches alongside her employees, she is EASILY the most meritocratic employer I've ever worked for.
I don't rock the boat politically (thanks to having an outlet here, I suppose), I put in the work and bring in the cash, I keep my personal life separate enough that it rarely bleeds over.
My friends in White Collar corporate jobs seem to be navigating byzantine labyrinths where the goals are ever-shifting, the ability to progress uncertain, and the actual rules for personal conduct are opaque in places. Loyalty doesn't exist, of course. Thankful to have avoided that for most of my life.
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Yeah, when I worked in corporate America, I noticed that women at my level got significantly better treatment and better opportunities than men. It's funny because women are constantly told (and seem to believe) that they must perform much better than men in order to keep up with them, but this claim is about as wrong as wrong can be. (Of course blacks were in a different world completely.)
One of the great things about quitting and starting my own business was that this totally flipped the script. I sold my services directly to customers who could be as racist and sexist as they wanted. Being a white man was suddenly an advantage.
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