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Friday Fun Thread for January 23, 2026

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I once dated someone who I'm pretty sure had BPD. She was constantly worried that I was secretly into her best friend (also a doctor) and that the feeling was mutual. For the record: not true, at least on my side.

So imagine my surprise when the best friend got engaged after a whirlwind courtship, and I looked at the wedding photos on Instagram to discover that her new husband:

  • Looked more like me than my actual brother does
  • Had the exact same last name as me

This could absolutely be coincidence. But here's the really funny part: if my ex and I had actually gotten married, she and her best friend would have ended up as Dr. or Mrs. [Same Name], married to what are essentially the same guy. I'm trying to imagine how my ex would have felt about this situation and I'm going to go with "not great" right now, but she might well have found it charming had things gone not gone to shit between us.

(I'm also at that magical age where most of my peers decide to give up on their dissolute lifestyles and marry off. I feel a tad bit left out, not that I'm in any real hurry.)

Chris Rock has this old bit about how men might see their best friend meet a nice girl and think "Man, I'd love to marry a girl like that". Women see their best friend meet a nice man and think "Man, I'd love to marry that specific man".

Now, I can't exactly speak to the truth of this. But if some sort of inverse typical mind fallacy is any indicator, way more women are worried about leaving their husband alone with their friends than men are of the same.

The singular exception seems to be the armed forces. I've known numerous men who won't let their wives on base without them. It's like dragged raw meat through a lion's den.

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