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This comment excerpt gave me a fun idea: The Chad harem/offspring-maxxxing doctors and lawyers explain to the autist incel programmers and engineers their personal understandings of how friendship and romance work!
Even before I realized that familiarity inevitably breeds contempt and stopped making attempts at pseudo-friendship, I absolutely hated the idea of obtaining an actual friend or a romantic partner only to be constantly forced by that person to do random things in which I had no interest. It seemed like a continuation of how my parents would torture me by making me join after-school clubs and dragging me to museums, concerts, and weddings.
I assumed that any friend or romantic partner would require me to do such things. But now @daguerrean says that only an inferior, weak-willed "beta" man allows his romantic partner to lead him around by the nose to random events. So, is it normal friendship/romance behavior to drag the other party to an event in which he is not interested, or not? Has my entire life been a lie?
My uncle – a far more accomplished psychiatrist than I –* was telling me about getting his passport renewed and the very first stamp being from Chad. I told him it was a missed opportunity that he went to Niger next, instead of the Virgin Islands.
Look dawg, your autism is weapons-grade. Distilled in a lab. It's absolutely dual-use technology, you use it for both great good and mild evil. I'm not sure that there's any advice anyone could give you that would completely change the way your neurons are wired. It's not like doctors can't be autistic, just look at @SkookumTree.
This varies a great deal. I've been in relationships where I've been subjected to stimuli as unpleasant as an ex making me watch stupid Victorian period dramas with her, and getting mad should I express disinterest or glance at my phone. I still shudder when I hear Taylor Swift, but other lovers have at least used earphones.
But the majority of my partners, and anyone I choose to call a friend, have been relatively understanding. In an ideal world, the fact that you're not interested in an activity should be both necessary and sufficient when it comes to getting them to desist from asking you to join them.
The Victorian-drama ex and I failed because she operated on the fusion model—she believed that love meant merged experience, that my dislike of her shows was a dislike of her. This wasn't true, for the record. I only started disliking her when she made my life a living hell in other ways.
Constantly forced? That's too much. I'd call that a deal breaker. But it's not that big of a deal to accompany a lovely lady to a summer market, or let her tell me about a new show she's watching.
Some claim that a partner should mirror your tastes. I think that's far from necessary. Commonality in values and beliefs is far more important than shared interests. If I want to talk about video games and AGI, that's what you mfs are for. Of course, you can get away with a little ho-scaring when you actually love each other, in the same way she's okay with you seeing her without makeup.
The man in the comment you linked is being mocked not because he is compromising, but because he is compromising on dignity rather than just preference. I have never been desperate enough for female attention to go to a protest for a cause I do not believe in. That involves a violation of my internal moral compass. Going to a museum just involves sore feet.
Relationships, like actual ships, require routine maintenance. You don't really resent a car for an oil change, and occasionally listening to something that doesn't actually interest you isn't that big a deal when you're getting mileage out of it.
*All em-dashes artisanally crafted by hand.
You placed this footnote on an en dash, not on an em dash. The difference between the two characters was recently discussed here.
And then you used an em dash later in the same comment. Such a blatant inconsistency gives your detractors a lot of ammo…
I'm only human. Self-made, in fact :(
They're both on long presses of "-" — — and I can't tell a difference when it's rendered here.
I recommend typing "& mdash;" and "& ndash;" without the spaces.
I didn’t know this was an option.
I do what @stolen_brawnze describes, even with the same fingering. I don’t smash the thumb though; it’s just more of an mp on the thumb as opposed to the p on the trill.
ETA: Ah, apparently it’s indeed not an option in software such as Word. It’s an HTML thing.
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I'm an alt + 0151 man myself. If you have a number pad it's a simple smash of the thumb and a trill between forefinger and middle finger.
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