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Fish in the right pond. If you don't want a normie liberal woman you are going to have to do something else then just use the apps in a big city this could be joining a church but depends what you want. Searching outside the West is the easiest way by far. The amount of guys who could score a trad hottie by putting half the time and money they did for their degree to find a wife but don't is unreal to me. If you want something different you have to go fish in a different pond. But just depends what you want
For me I'm not really religious or super trad but I didn't do well in the Wests I went to East Asia and dating became much easier. Just don't be stupid about it. A lot of guys say they want that but then just end up hanging out with English groupies and bars sluts (whats a female chad lol that's basically the dynamic) But it's not hard to wife up a nice traditional girl if you look outside the US for a year or two and learn some of the local lingo.
What if I am strictly a Caucasian dater?
idk where you are but at least in the US there's an enormous amount of alpha in majority-Caucasian minority-Latina. You can even get light hair and blue eyes sometimes.
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