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PaperclipPerfector  2d ago (text post)   1489 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for February 27, 2026

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I think it's that I haven't met the right person and deliberately dating is not going to be the way for me to the meet the right person. Rather I think I'll meet the person who I want to spend a lot of time with by being social and meeting new people doing things I enjoy.

If your hobbies work that way then that might work. I am a massive introvert, I like staying home and playing videogames or board games, not going out to meet people. And my wife is that way too. I was never going to find her by going out and being social, and if I had picked up a new social hobby to meet people I would have mostly met people who like whatever that hobby is that I would be pretending to like.

I found her on a dating website. And it was painful, because I had to go through hundreds and hundreds of stupid normies and people looking for quick hookups, or just the wrong kinds of nerds. Luckily by being a weird nerd myself I screened off most of the people who were a bad fit pretty quickly, Despite looking for like 4 years I only ever went on one real life date prior to finding my wife. But I eventually found her and now we stay at home not doing external social things together.

I don't know how well that scales in general. That's what worked for me. But also I knew I wanted to find someone and I knew what I was looking for (as close to a female copy of me as possible, basically), so I went through a bunch of effort, and a lot of waiting, to make it happen.

Have you never fallen in love?

I have two times. Both relationships ended messily because the feelings weren't mutual.

I'm so sorry. I've been fortunate to have mutual love at least a couple times. What I can say is that it's so worth it, even though it's hard to find. Dates a man can find, and relationships he can attain, but love is happenstance, sweet sweet happenstance.

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