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PaperclipPerfector  3mo ago (text post)   2189 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for February 27, 2026

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Yea it definitely could be this too. A better way to say what I wanted to say is that I think I'm done with dating apps, forever. I've had a single relationship from an app and it fell apart as soon as she realized who I actually was, rather than who she projected onto me. I'm open to connection in my real life (I'm not anti friend like @ToaKraka).

I think I'm done with dating apps, forever.

SAME. I've gotten genuinely offended by the choices the algorithm gods have seen fit to provide me. They will receive no patronage from me any longer.

For the new year I'm going ALL IN on maximizing my IRL social 'surface area' and being enthusiastic towards any woman who seems single and available and otherwise doesn't have a disqualifying red flag (which, sadly, is a lot of them).

Do I think this is likely to work out for me? Well, not quite. Do I think it'll be more fun? Yeah.

I'm well aware that I'm still competing with the apps in a real sense, but there also seems to be a general vibe shift where even the women are realizing these apps are wasting their time and ruining their emotional state.

I was flirting with a bartender at a local cigar bar (normally populated by Boomers, so I stood out) earlier this month, got her number, it was a fun little back-and-forth, finally felt kind of alive and in the game. She seemed enthused to have me around.

THEN she turned up with a boyfriend on Valentine's day (not sure how long he was in the picture).

It beats being ghosted.

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