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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 2, 2026

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Well, if I just silently glower when I come home and invite no dialog, she probably will not. Or I suppose I could say "I don't care how your day was, but you may tell me if you wish."

I am imagining that, in a perfect romance, the romantic partners feel free to spontaneously start conversations with each other at any time, without the need for invitations that ring hollow. For example, the man gets up from his computer and invites the woman over to look at the cool program that he just wrote, or the woman calls the man over to the window to check out the cute deer that has just pooped in their backyard. As a friendless virgin I have no experience with such situations, but that's what I imagine.

I "don't care" in the sense that I don't care to hear the details or whether she had an argument with a coworker or it was unusually busy or the ventilation wasn't working so it was uncomfortable or the craziest thing happened at lunch or blah blah blah. That's stuff I listen to out of politeness.

Again, I have no experience here, so maybe I'm exaggerating the true intensity of romance (or just "putting the pussy on a pedestal", as the redpillers say). But I am imagining that, in a perfect romance, even in such a banal conversation, you are thankful to have an excuse to bask in the presence and attention of your romantic partner (as long as the venting doesn't last overly long).

You don't say "Good morning" because you think it's falsely implying you give a shit?

Absolutely. My coworkers would say "good morning", and I would reply "hello".

As a friendless virgin I have no experience with such situations, but that's what I imagine.

But I am imagining that, in a perfect romance, even in such a banal conversation, you are thankful to have an excuse to bask in the presence and attention of your romantic partner (as long as the venting doesn't last overly long).

Look man, real life is neither grim redpill/blackpill despair nor a "perfect romance" where you are basking in each other's attention and affection. A functional and good relationship is one where you actually like each other and genuinely care about how your partner feels. Not one where you are playing roles from a romance anime, or just extracting money and sex from each other.

Absolutely. My coworkers would say "good morning", and I would reply "hello".

You do you, but to feel like you're engaging in intolerable social deception by saying "Good morning" is... weird.

As a friendless virgin I have no experience with such situations, but that's what I imagine.

Well, unless you hatched out of an egg or were found under a gooseberry bush, you presumably grew up in a family. Did you all just grunt at one another?

My memory may just be faulty, but as far as I can remember my parents' interactions with each other (and me and my brother) seemed, not friendly or loving, but just neutral (before they divorced around age 50). They definitely didn't have any hobbies to talk with each other about.

As a child, I would emerge from my bedroom to spontaneously tell my parents about some random Latin-translation or modular-origami innovation that had caught my interest, without needing to ask how they were doing first.

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