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Did you ever figure out what the secret the actuaries know, beyond the secretary problem, to scoring candidates? I seem to recall they were notable outliers in terms of making things last. Do you have an actual spreadsheet? I wonder if any actuaries can do some freelance analysis on it to double check the calculations.
Or you know, if the vibes are good, congrats.
I had to look up the actuaries reference - lowest divorce rate, neat. That kind of makes sense to me - if you're used to systematizing complex things and making mathematically optimal decisions, maybe you have good general judgement. It's a little surprising in that math != emotions, but maybe for (especially a pair of) such minds, it works.
Definitely have an actual spreadsheet. It's a fascinating artifact of my life. Basic ratings, number of dates, p(get to date i | got to date j), who ended it, that kind of thing.
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