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Wellness Wednesday for March 18, 2026

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

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New year's resolutions check-in:

  • Posted my seventh blog post of the year on Sunday, about attachment styles and infant mortality. Cross-posted here.
  • Went to the gym twice last week. After writing the aforementioned blog post, I changed into my gym gear and was about to leave for the gym when my girlfriend pointed out that it closes at 7:30 on Sundays. Aghast: last week was the first week of the year I didn't go to the gym at least three times. To compensate, I'm going to go four times this week (and it must be this week: I'm not going to kick the can down the round indefinitely). Can deadlift 1.8x my bodyweight for 3 reps, squat 1.03x for 5 reps and bench press .85x for 6 reps.
  • Have not consumed any pornography since waking up on January 1st.
  • Have completed 10/11 modules in the SQL course. Planning to do the eleventh today.

How goes it, @thejdizzler, @birb_cromble, @falling-star and @Tollund_Man4?

Oh, hell, new year's resolutions? Mine's always the same - compete in as many HEMA tournaments as I can afford.

I'm currently scheduled to participate in two longsword competitions in May. There would've been another in April, but it's tied into a larger multi-day event that ends up costing far more than my budget allows. A friend suggested the London open longsword tournament, but that's completely out of scope. There should be more later this year, and I really have to go and do my due dilligence in checking up on which ones, where, for how much, and when the applications open.

As far as preparations go, meh.

I still don't have any formal training I can go to with any regularity (driving 3-4h at hours I would normally sleep at, just for 2-3h of technical training, no way.), I missed the full-day open fencing day last month because I was still recovering from surgery, which is a shame, because it was me who instigated that particular event in the first place, but that's what I get for handing it off to others. I could go to sparring meetups on weekends, but that's still 3-4h of driving and would ultimately take up most of a weekend day, and the family does not look kindly upon me being gone all week for work and then also absent on weekends.

I'm working a little more on general fitness. I have been climbing stairs very aggressively. I considered swimming again, but decided against it because the local pool is cold as hell and swimming is boring. I took to doing some very aggressive 20-minute bike rides, set the goal of climbing the hill I live on via bike in one go, and made it. Since then I've somewhat slackened on biking due to worse weather, but it's improving and I should pick it back up again. I started doing regular kettlebell curls, but my strategy of "just do one set until failure whenever it occurs to me", which ends up being 2-4 times a day, is probably not ideal. Kettlebell swings similarly, but I put those on hold due to knee issues. Calisthenics, with squats, burpees, lunges, pushups, legraisers etc. I also do on a "whenever I feel like it" basis, picking exercises based on whichever parts of me currently hurt the least. All of this is admittedly very haphazard, but I'm seeing some improvements, though surely not what they could be, so I'll claim a solid better-than-nothing. The wife and I are also planning to sign up to a gym, but I wouldn't bet on that materializing.

For the technical side of things, since I'm not getting anywhere for actual HEMA practice, I signed up for a trial run at a local jujutsu club. I intend to go there tomorrow evening. Curious to see what it's like. If it ends up being a dud, I'll probably take another stab at the nearby BJJ/Kickboxing/MMA. I'd prefer the club in principle, because it's a lot cheaper, but I'll see. I'm plannning some longsword drills for this afternoon, but I need an actual place to do them in! Right now I'm looking at a stretch of dirt road in the woods in between the shooting club and the garbage dump (sorry, the "valuable materials yard"), but not sure if it's ideal. I'm halfway inclined to just do it in the local park and maybe even attract potential sparring partners that way, but that's a very long shot since I have negative charisma and no second set of protective gear, and with a little bad luck I'll just get picked up by the police.

Six weeks until the first tournament. It's in high hayfever season, but I picked up new antiallergens that are supposed to not cause fatigue. A fellow fencer also recommended those, so I have high hopes. Last year in the same tournament, I ate antihistamines like candy and ended up so drowsy I got myself beaten by a little girl. Would prefer to avoid that outcome this time.

Doing competitive niche martial arts in the countryside with no budget, no fitness, no idea of what I'm doing, and getting too old for it. Yes, this is the life.

I have been climbing stairs very aggressively.

I'm not quite sure of the maximally aggressive way to climb stairs. I have this image of a Teutonic figure ein-drei-zwei-ing his way up and down 10 flights for half an hour, moustache bristling, possibly with a longsword slung over his shoulders.

Two steps at a time, pushing off with the back foot in imitation of a lunge, and starting the next one as soon as the lead foot lands. Moustache bristling indeed, but no longswords at work (no stairs at home, but plenty in the office). And it's eins-zwei-drei.

Duly noted. It's one of those terrible language things where the correct answer appears in your mind and then you think, 'hang on, I remember getting this wrong before,' and then you swap it round and you get it wrong and the whole ghastly cycle repeats.

Anyway, keep up the good work!

Honestly, this shouldn't be so difficult. One-Two-Three and Eins-Zwei-Drei are clearly related, after all. Can't you heard the similarity?

Yeah, I see it. Will do better next time :)