falling-star
2d ago
I feel like I listen to too much angsty/"sad boy music" and want to get into stuff with happier vibes. What's some new stuff to listen to? I generally like hard rock/metal and electronic, but I'm open to anything. I value lyrical complexity a lot, which I think has kept me away from trying most pop.
falling-star
2d ago
If you don't have a religious thing against wanking, just wank a few times to your imagination. If you do, focus that energy into trying to get laid. If you're really no sex til marriage... Idk bro, figure out how to sublimate it. Being horny is lowkey a mild stimulant. Deal with the distraction and reap the added energy.
falling-star
2d ago
Oof. If that's what you really want then get rich and have a mail order bride. Otherwise settle for non-virgin, leaving somewhat under your own influence like the rest of us.
falling-star
2d ago
Hmm, I don't know you that well, or what you struggle with. I'd say generally writing yourself off as a loss in a big area is a recipe for unhappiness. You can be pretty dysfunctional and still do OK. Plenty of guys I know are scrapping by paycheck to paycheck or odd job to odd job, and they have steady live in 6/10 gfs. In the modern age, you don't really have to fully financially support a girl, more like 50% support her.
Sorting your stuff out can also happen faster than you think. You don't have to solve everything, just figure out enough coping mechanisms and strategies to get what you want. If you really try you can change a lot in just a year or two. And if you're worried about the age gap, plenty of asian girls look your type into their early thirties. You got options man.
Sorry for Wellness Wednesday posting in the Fun Friday thread. But almost everyone can grow into being able to get what they want. Denying that is just choosing familiarity over happiness.
falling-star
2d ago
I've been watching Chain Smoker Cat recently and it's a lot of fun. It's the first time in years I've watched something as it came out. In the age of streaming and binging, I forgot the excitement of a new episode dropping. It's nice to have a thing to look forwards to each week.
falling-star
2d ago
I don't know how old you are now man, but if you're relatively young there are still plenty of adult women with adolescent vibes and appearance. Idk if that partially does it for you, but giving up on sex entirely isn't a recipe for a healthy life.
falling-star
2d ago
I feel confused by all the assertions that women are peak attractive at 16. My physical preference tends to be 22-23. I can't judge age very well, but the girls I'm most into keep turning out that way. I wonder if it's purely physical or if it's a demeanor thing.
falling-star
2d ago
I thought that was her
falling-star
6d ago
Tracked my calories 6 out of the past 7 days. Actually reaching 3k feels like a fucking crusade. Unpleasant conclusion I'm coming to is I need to halve my caffeine intake to make eating easier. Ordered a food scale. My gym buddies have been super unmotivated lately so I might just switch back to a solo 5x5 routine.
falling-star
7d ago
I'm working on writing something too, with the direct expectation it's going to Royal Road and will never be formally published. Include me in the shoutout cabal.
falling-star
10d ago
Tonight I got a harsh reminder that house party/illegal show reputation has a very low transference to club environments. Oof. Something to learn from, no where near resting on my laurels yet.
falling-star
13d ago
I finally quit my job. There was just no hope of the business making it. Bumming around now. Think I should be studying for programming interviews.
Been trying to take care of my appearance and act like nothing bothers me. When I pull it off it's surreal how many strangers start talking to me in public and how nice to me people get. When I slip even for a second minute I become what feels like completely invisible. I really wish I understood this vibe management stuff better.
Got sick, lost a few pounds. Better again and going to the gym again. I feel like I've been gaining and losing the same weight repeatedly. Most food seems pretty unappetizing most of the time to me. I have been making smoothies with protein powder every day, so hopefully that starts adding up.
My resolution was to track calories, which I did for maybe a few weeks. I think think I'll order a food scale and actually try again now.
falling-star
16d ago
Thinking about it more, there is one guy "below" me that initially showed a lot of fawning behavior when we first met. I realized a fair bit later he was gay and actively wanted to get topped by me. He figured out I was terminally straight. I always treated him like an pseudo little brother friend. Now I think we're on the same page about that.
There's also the whole pederasty in mentorship thing in ancient Greece.
I think I'm too straight to have the full picture here. I guess these "junior/senior" relationships get complicated when one or both sides has homosexual attraction.
falling-star
16d ago
Two quick points.
- The fawning reaction towards a "more dominant" or "more masculine" man isn't a cuck behavior. It's setting the stage for things like client/patron, mentorship, or big/little brother relationships. The junior party gets protection and/or help developing their confidence and/or social status. I don't know if it's just me but this sort of relationship seems pretty fundamental to straight guy life. I have a handful of people "above" me, and a handful of people "below" me. No cucking involved.
- Weird personal anecdote. I dated a Chinese girl once. I was the first white guy she ever was with. I was pretty insecure about how skinny I was at the time. I found out through gossip that her previous (Asian) exes were taller and more built than me. I asked her how she felt about that. She smiled at me and said "You white boys have your own charm." I never figured out what the fuck she meant by that, but all the comparison insecurity evaporated afterwards.
falling-star
17d ago
My most unrealistic take is that we could probably solve half our problems with democracy by deliberately structuring it so that only around 30% of the population could do things like vote or serve on jury duty. My preferred solution would be to require an exam, military service, or a fuck ton of community service hours before you get these rights. The real intention is for the exam to be the filter. The military and community service operate as a release valve for people thinking the exam is too exclusionary.
falling-star
1mo ago
Naw man. Kinky stuff is a nice bonus on top of how enjoyable sex already is. Sex with a 7/10 is pretty great. The sort of kinky sex you like with the same 7/10 is even better. Consider also: people who do kinky sex also frequently have vanilla sex with the same partners. IME a 50/50 split is normal.
falling-star
1mo ago
I've had it happen to me. Only with girls from dating apps though. Girls I met through any other context would show up 100% of the time.
falling-star
1mo ago
As a counter example: I saw the chainsaw man movie when it came out with a weeb friend. People were maybe a little more overweight than average. Other than cosplayers it was pretty normal. Most people were clearly there with their friends. My friend made a comment that the audience was "gentrifying".
falling-star
1mo ago
When I went to Catholic Spain a few years ago I was surprised by the much higher number of Down's syndrome kids I saw in public.
falling-star
1mo ago
Smart white labor has nowhere to go
What universe are you living in? How old are you? I'm 27, white, in tech. I'm not a genius, I didn't go to an elite school. I've always had tech opportunities that would have given me a comfortable middle class life. So did most of the other white boys that graduated with me. Competition from Indians and Chinese in STEM is real, but it's not so all consuming white tech bros are being """genocided""".
falling-star
1mo ago
Back to my business looking like it's failing and I'm crashing out again. This time actually seems terminal, but I've told people this was happening enough times previously I'm not even telling them again. Main accomplishment I can report is not using amphetamine to cope with the combination of rising expectations and falling hope.
There's a few slivers of hope to cling to. Not for this part of my career at least. I saw a legitimate falling star for the second time in my life a few weeks ago. The first time that happened everything got better more than I could have ever hoped for.
falling-star
1mo ago
I played 80% of faith the unholy trinity. It's a 10/10 vibes game but a 6/10 gameplay game. I got interested in it because of these edits (https://youtube.com/watch?v=Mc9pML6Qamc https://youtube.com/watch?v=saxKlb_lkQE) based on the most excellent cutscenes. The vibes in the game are the best pixel horror I've ever seen, very faithful to an 8bit style. The gameplay is unfortunately faithful to the 8bit style. It has secret lore and secret endings, and a big part of the gameplay is finding shit in the environment to interact with. Which objects you can or can't interact with is obscure. That meant I ended up interacting with every object on the map, which got tedious. Would recommend buying and playing on sale, but not for the store price.
Recently played stalker 2 for a few hours. I had played it for 20 hours a year and a few months ago. Stalker was my favorite series, but when I played it first it felt like AAA slop. Now it feels like a true stalker game wearing the coat of AAA slop. The environment and gunplay feel good in a way they didn't before. Every main story event is still meh. Do you guys think I should restart my save to re-experience the game, I just met
falling-star
2mo ago
I use opus exclusively at work. I can't honestly say I've noticed any meaningful difference between 4.6-4.8. 4.6 was the last one I used where I was like "Yeah this is just better".
falling-star
2mo ago
When I was a child reading novels I did. Now I mostly feel accomplished. There's a lot of comfort in knowing I could read most books again and get more out of them.
Kansai is depicted as the most attractive and stable. I'm thinking Yaku is best girl. Pros: Earnest, looks up to a friend, writes bad web fiction (relatable), can smoke weed with. Cons: Addicted to heroin. My issue with Hame is that she's blatantly fake.
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