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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 30, 2026

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That is also what I have been told by women, so it is probably true. But the direction that they influence each other in matters a lot. If they encourage the behavior I describe, or police those who value self control and long term planning, then my point still stands.

At least in my experience, women are the first to claim that sex is not a big deal and discourage anything that shames promiscuity or a lack of self control.

I think a better counter is that it is easy to find examples of men who ended up in abusive relationships, when they really ought to have known better. So perhaps this is not a woman-specific issue, but rather just that some people lack self control and think with their genitals.

I would argue though, that women sure seem to complain a lot more about landing in abusive relationships than men do, so clearly there is some kind of gendered thing going on here.

I think many men have adopted the whole stereotypical male ego "I'm tough and ready for anything" mentality so much that the idea that they are being abused by a woman in a relationship doesn't even occur to them. After all, they see women as weak and nonthreatening. So abuse might be happening, but they lack the cognitive symbols that would allow them to actually conceptualize it as abuse.

So abuse might be happening, but they lack the cognitive symbols that would allow them to actually conceptualize it as abuse.

And of those that can conceptualize it as abuse, they can't communicate that effectively.

To provide a concrete example, this is why the first label a traditionalist reaches for is "pedophilia" when [female] teachers teach 7 year olds they're transgender- and it's also why normies find that claim completely incoherent.

Ironically, to formulate effective cognitive symbols in that way, you have to think like [and value yourself as] a woman [would]. And I don't think many men really want to do that, and so with the choice they have they choose not to think at all.

Men have less sympathy for other men in abusive relationships than women do for other women in them. The extent to which that is real or performative and the extent to which it matters are both debatable, but I think that seems at least to me to be the obvious truth.

I would argue though, that women sure seem to complain a lot more about landing in abusive relationships than men do, so clearly there is some kind of gendered thing going on here.

My intuitive guess is that this is due to there being a mismatch in how much women rationally expect their complaints to have positive impact in their lives versus how much men rationally expect such. But I'm not sure how much is that versus more women being in abusive relationships or women tending to be in abusive relationships that are more violent.

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