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Aren’t all girls trained in the art of seduction? Is there really some mysterious art CIA/KGB/Mossad can teach? Nearly every girl takes some kind of dance courses since they were 5 like how every boy plays t-ball. Then girls do make-up together. Talk about boys all thru high school.
Sure some are better. But most have a lot of training growing up.
Professional seduction is definitely more than today's girls are trained in. You have to come on harder than a regular expression of female interest, because you actually want that particular man to respond rather than wait for the most bold one. But also if you make it look too good to be true, you'll make him suspicious.
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Seduction is the first step. Women's sexual talents exist on a normal distribution like everything else. A honeypot who can't fuck can't do their job - I'm not going to spill my guts for a woman who gives unenthusiastic, toothy head.
This is why one of the CCP's screening questions for potential honeypots is "Do you enjoy the music of Taylor Swift?"
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I may be contributing more than necessary to this thread but in my experience girls are awful at seduction unless they're very quick studies or have a lot of practice.
Exactly. A large part of modern dating dysfunction is both genders not knowing how to 'do the dance' especially with the introduction of modern technology. Impulses that'd maybe play out as a come hither thing in fleeting in-person contact don't work on apps or over DMs.
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Yeah women shouldn't be seducing men, men need to have agency to perform sexually. All women need to do is express a bit of interest to the point that the man has the confidence to get it up and to know that she's not going to turn him down. The more she does the more likely she is to scare him off. Man being scared off is off-putting to a woman as well who at least wants a man to have the confidence to believe he is worthy of screwing her.
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Learning how to make oneself look more attractive is but one component of learning how to seduce someone. In courtship, men are traditionally expected to take on a more active, agentic role compared to women (e.g. women expect to be asked out, not to do the asking), so the skills associated with seduction are not generally ones that women learn by default.
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