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I am in my late 30s and I have discovered that I may be somewhat neurodivergent. I am suspicious of fad disorders, dislike therapy culture, and am skeptical of psychology, so I'm not your average self-diagnoser. I'm also one of the last people folks would suspect of being ND, as I am apparently "high-masking," and I successfully present as normal and likeable to other people 100% of the time--I've never had "social burnout" in front of others (though the crash does come hard afterwards when I am finally alone). While I'm still skeptical of this self-diagnosis, the explanatory and predictive power seems too specific and consistently correct for it to be cold-reading/horoscope style fluff.
I also have to laugh at myself a bit here, because I can recall more than once thinking thoughts along the lines of "how unusually open-minded I am, I can appreciate even the manifestos and effortposts of those loveable turbo-autists in the ratsphere and on The Motte." Welp.
In the grand scheme of things, this discovery is not a big deal because I'm no different than I was before I discovered this. I'm still a husband, son, father, friend, the same guy everyone has known and liked all along. It is a useful framework for understanding my own feelings and actions more clearly, though. It has made me feel less guilty about needing a lot of decompression time, and it has made me feel less pressure to socially "perform" in front of my wife (who I'm quite sure is even more ND than I am, though in different ways -- birds of a feather). It has been a weird but overall positive experience. Though I would be lying if I said there wasn't a tiny part of me that is sad that I'm not as "normal" as I once believed.
Have any of you realized this later in life? What was your experience?
Uh, anon...
Kidding aside, I had my own realization in my early 20s before it was such a common thing, and it was when I read about Dr Asperger's "little professors" and thought "oh shit." Turned out to be more complicated, but unsurprisingly parents in the all-too-common autist/cluster B pairing managed to produce a bunch of weirdo kids.
And really, that would be my main worry about someone figuring it out later in life: that they would've already fallen into the cluster B trap. It sounds like you avoided that, so everything else that stems from your realization can probably be managed.
So that's why the other kids kept duct taping me to the flagpole...
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