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Okay well if that magical feeling doesn't count as evidence of anything and nobody needs a hug over it either, then what exactly do you want? Seriously this whole subthread is some deeply female-coded shit in the worst possible way, complaining that those gosh darned debates are too focused on who's right and wrong and don't respect feelings enough.
And now we're gone back to 19th century "religion is for women" (which came via "Roman Catholicism is for women, it's a soft, feminine religion unlike strong masculine square-jawed Protestantism").
Truly, nothing new under the sun.
Oh no, I'm not talking about the religion. I'm talking about the part where you need to make sure everyone knows you won't be participating in a debate because you think people believing their positions are correct is a big problem, the part where you complain that people's subjective feelings were being dismissed by mere science, and the part where you ignore the first half of the post you responded to here, maybe because you're not sure what to say.
Like between "I'm not saying you have to believe that a spiritual experience is real" and "not a request that you be my ersatz parent" I'm not really sure what else you want. Maybe whoever was telling you about neuroscience was just right.
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Look, I already have reasons to believe you are a sock puppet, and when you come in with what is pretty clearly a personal grudge and make pointed jabs at your bete noir, I am inclined to just ban you.
If you want to argue with someone (you will notice I am having a similar argument with her in this thread, but without the personal attacks), don't do it with the intention of getting under their skin, whatever your beef is. I won't warn you again- you're a "new" account I already consider disposable.
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FYI you are talking to a woman.
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