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That's what 'pick a girl who's monogamous and tolerates the philandering' is gesturing to, though. I'd also imagine that even in top end tech circles that very few men have clout that transfers to instantaneous endless bitches in the way that an entertainment/athletic top ender has
My gut says many wives actually find the husband cheating as quite attractive. The Greenwich wife kind of knowing his 24 year old secretary from a state school is hanging her husband. It validates that he’s still high value.
I have a friend(The wife) who seems to have this predilection. Though it's not cheating because it is explicitly open on his side. But she seems to get off on knowing that other women find her husband hot and that he's high value enough to still get laid on the reg.
I personally don't think he's really the type to actually do it, and personally don't think he's that much of a looker besides being tall, but a girls gotta have her fantasies and as far I know he doesn't disabuse her of the notion.
I mean I think it's a thing with some women where they kinda massively embiggen their partner's attractiveness in their own head since he's their 'type' and then either have some sort of thing for their husband attracting other women and proving their judgement, or assume that every woman who looks at their husband is after his dick even if he's a 5/10. I've had enough female friends who range on guys between polar opposites of '11/10 he is the sexiest guy in the universe' to '-5/10 I have icked' and it's the same 4.5/10 guy the entire time to make me feel like a decent chunk of women just operate a lot more like that psychologically.
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Men don’t feel the same way because they want their kids to be their kids. But women know who the father is. So other women being interested in the father is confirmation they picked the right sperm donor. They don’t like it if they think he would leave her and make her destitute, but just sex isn’t as big of a threat.
The evo-psych explanation works in this case for me. I have theorized additional factors related to her personality that I think strongly impact why this occurs in their relationship.
The amusing thing to me is that these two are highly progressive (the husband is pretty much a champagne socialist) but lead a very trad lifestyle. She likes to spin it as being poly, but she's clearly just a cuck.
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