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Culture War Roundup for the week of May 25, 2026

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People way more comfortable interacting with strangers' small children than in Australia since there are more small children around. Essentially everywhere has ample childseats. Carseat legislation has tradeoffs but less enforcement makes being ad-hoc with children a lot easier. Difference in wages means that most service jobs are way more staffed here so you get a lot more active assistance with children whilst dining and whatnot.

People way more comfortable interacting with strangers' small children than in Australia since there are more small children around.

I think the more likely explanation is that the pedophile predator threat is part of the public consciousness in Australia but not in SE Asia. And I doubt the fertility rate is higher in SE Asia than in Australia.

Essentially everywhere has ample childseats.

Do you mean restaurants and third places in general?

And I doubt the fertility rate is higher in SE Asia than in Australia.

Malaysia 1.6 per capita to Australia at 1.48 which isn't a huge gap, though also going to likely be magnified by me going from a relatively big city to somewhere more suburban. There is a massive increase in child-friendly infrastructure here, though.

Malaysia has gotten far wealthier and more comfortable in the last 30 years, especially in and around the major cities and especially in KL. This changes the whole mindset. The really big living standards boom in the Anglo countries was after WW2, the only people who remember it are very old.

Even where Anglo countries have done well economically (which includes Australia and, for the last fifteen years, the US) the foundation was already a high degree of material prosperity. Malaysians (and Chinese) seem materially happy because many more of them remember genuine poverty.