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Renate Reinsve is only thirty-eight.
Well, if I go by the comments of some of the gentlemen on here around female fertility/SMV, once a woman hits thirty it's automatic Old Hagdom. So if she's 38, she's a crone and practically fifty. All dried up. Eggs running out, and only stale, lousy, ancient eggs remaining if she tries to have babies (never mind that historically women were having babies well into their thirties and forties). Looks old, tired, wrinkled, saggy unlike fresh youthful men of that age who always remain attractive up to age seventy at least.
I don't think any of those gentlemen have said that there aren't hot sixty-year-old women (East Asians are notorious for this) or that sixty-year-old men always look attractive. They just said that the former can't have kids and the latter can. (If some of them have said the wrong statement, well, they're wrong.)
In case I'm one of the people you're counting as "some of the gentlemen", I would remind you that what I said was that the chances of making four kids with a woman who's already past 30 when you meet her start to get dicey.
No, it's more than just fertility. I think there is an element of jealousy beneath it all, that (some) men resent being attracted to women. They resent that girls gatekeep sex (and if the girls don't, then they're sluts and whores, so there's no winning either way). They resent having to be the one to pursue it. They resent that girls are the standard of attraction.
So any little stick they can use to beat the dog gets grabbed: The Wall. Oh yeah, you'll be thirty, ugly, alone, childless because your eggs dried up, and I'll be in my prime, bitch!
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Do you ever talk to AI? I have this unaccountable sense that you'd probably enjoy it.
Never, the one half-assed attempt I made didn't impress me much. Mind you, I barely talk to people as it is. I have no interest in pretending a toaster has a rich interior life which it can communicate to me.
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