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I swear to god.
Kindly stop with the melodramatic callouts. Perhaps you missed the last round. If you really think Arjin is missing key information, send him a DM.
And you, @magicalkittycat. I know you were paying attention. Falling back on personal attacks does no one any favors.
The closest thing to it was saying that I have a job and a busy life and that it's not unique to do so, and thus assuming that it is so unique or strange to fit the category of "employed with family" that giving it as a response to a question as why I don't reply to every comment is not indicative or whatever weird conspiracy theory he has in his head.
Now I don't know why it comes off as so unique to him. Maybe he's currently unemployed. Maybe he's a NEET and most people in his life are also unemployed.
I don't care, I'm not passing judgement. I have an aunt who lives off social security because she's disabled and hasn't worked for almost two decades. That's fine.
It's just a very strange thing to assume "job with kids makes me busy" is unique. It's not, it's normal and common.
Perhaps I wasn’t clear.
Do not respond to accusations with personal attacks. Block them, address the substance, I don’t care, but do not take the opportunity to speculate on your interlocutor’s life story. Especially do not respond to a warning about personal attacks by making more guesses about what’s going on in his head.
One day ban.
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As I've made ABUNDANTLY clear to you, I never claimed the fact that you have a job and a family is remarkable in and of itself. I was pointing out the specific pattern of behaviour in which you 1) write a lengthy comment in which you employ some extremely specious reasoning 2) multiple people push back on it 3) you airily announce that you don't have time to reply to all the comments because you have a job and a family (and, in a staggering coincidence, the only times your professional and familial obligations present an obstacle to you posting here is when people are criticising your specious reasoning). This was a very specific thing that @guesswho did on multiple occasions, so it would strike me as a massive coincidence if you are not the same person as @guesswho.
You know something else @guesswho did a great deal? Pretending not to understand something which has been repeatedly explained to him in exhaustive detail, as you're doing now. Something else? Denying that he's engaging personal attacks while engaging in personal attacks. You think you're so clever ("Maybe he's currently unemployed. Maybe he's a NEET and most people in his life are also unemployed. I don't care, I'm not passing judgement...").
I'm not unemployed. I have a good job. Most people in my life also have good jobs.
Seriously, mods – if accusing me and everyone I know of being unemployed losers with no prospects (with the fig leaf of "I'm not passing judgement" wink wink) doesn't qualify as "antagonistic, uncharitable or unkind" behaviour, what the hell does?
It does.
That said, you don’t have to take the bait.
You're right.
I want to sincerely apologise for getting so worked up. For my own sake, I won't be interacting with MKC anymore in any capacity. No more mod warnings will be required.
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Aka "reasoning you don't agree with" right?
So what if multiple people disagree with me? It would be really weird if everyone did agree.
I replied to a substantial portion, and the reply that I can't do it to everyone was specifically when asked why I didn't reply to a specific one.
Look I don't know why you continue to insist that
Q: "Why don't you answer every single question?"
A: "I don't have time for every single one cause I have a life so I answer some of them"
is something suspicious.
It's not suspicious, it's an incredible normal reason. This is a "Hitler also breathed air" tier argument. I'm trying to be good faith and assume you genuinely find the reason I gave as something shocking for some reason, instead of you acting maliciously.
Well good for you. Why can't you understand it as something other people like me also have?
Says the person throwing out completely spurious accusations based off evidence like "You answer that you can't reply to everyone because you have a job and family when asked that specific question" and "I think your views have a logic I disagree with". So do most people in the world!
Would you PLEASE, for the LOVE OF GOD, STOP pretending like I ever said the fact that you have a job is in and of itself worthy of comment.
I never said that. I never said anything like it. You know exactly why I brought it up. You know exactly what you're doing. Stop playing dumb.
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You're right, I should have DM'd him, I apologise.
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