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PaperclipPerfector  3d ago (text post)   2174 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for June 21, 2026

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I fail to see what having no interest in crowds and sports has to do with being a loser.

It doesn't in and of itself. Correlation, but certainly not a given. I know lot's of guys that hate crowds and have no interest in soccer, every one of them in my circle would recognize this as a rare opportunity to do something interesting - something that "cool" people think is "cool". It's being unwilling to be uncomfortable for a limited period of time to partake in a rare enough opportunity that tends towards "loser" behavior.

I think baseball sucks as much as soccer, I don't live near a MLB team so when I am on a work trip in a city with one and get invited to an MLB game, I go. Because it's a semi-rare opportunity.

Anecdote from my freshman year of college. I found myself turning down invites because I liked watching pirated shows, and films. A few weeks in I decided to never turn down an invite unless I had a very good excuse. Not disappointed in that choice at all.

There are people that I would consider "cool" who would turn down such and invite, but got to amp up the "coolness" in some other areas to compensate.

Letting other people drag you to events that you hate sounds like textbook loser behavior to me.

[citation needed] ;)

I would actually pushed back on that pretty heavily. You could certainly find yourself in a social circle that is not suitable. If you're trad and all your friends are swingers. And I hold opposite gender coded stuff in a differently if you're heavily unbalanced getting drug to your wife's stuff that's a problem.

I have no qualms with someone that wants to live a loner life, have their online friends, a few people they play board games with etc. But I suspect that a lot of people saying that's all they want start complaining about - and they do deserve a lot of it - the foids.

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