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That's disgusting! How did you meet her? Just so I know what sort of lifestyle and places to avoid when I'm in my 50s someday.
"It's just a few crazy kids on campus." Maybe or maybe not it's just a few white-knights and bitter middle-aged women on Reddit, but bear in my mind they'd happily have you imprisoned alongside Leonardo DiCaprio and Tobey Maguire.
Where there's a will, there's a way.
The age of consent can always be raised, including to over 18, with a Romeo and Juliet clause of ${YEARS}. In the US, for example, there's already plenty of precedent where adulthood isn't fully adult: can't drink, buy handguns, or (in some states) gamble until the age of 21; can't run for House, Senate, or President until the age 25, 30, or 35, respectively.
That was an adverse outcome.
Had she married Count Paris maybe she makes it to 19.
I think OP is looking for a Juliet and Paris clause.
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Just to be clear, she sought me out. My preference would be for someone who is older, however I'm not a "Chad" type so I can't really have a laundry list of requirements. Just finding a woman who is slender, reasonably intelligent, and not into Leftism is hard enough.
Yeah, I know. I concede that all the hate for men who are in relationships with younger women could easily explode into the mainstream. That being said, I think it's more likely to remain more of a sniper's weapon than a shotgun. Maybe it's wishful thinking? Anyway, my fiancee and I have 3 citizenships between us so I guess there are a lot of options to flee.
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