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I often find myself feeling as if there's something inherently controversial about me that will create friction between a woman I'm interested in. I've spent my formative years living in a rather remote area with a narrow dating pool, and the few times I have approached women to ask for their numbers, they've told me without fail that they are already in a relationship. The high-quality women around here clearly are quick to get taken for good reason. I've never been on a single date, and I've never had a texting stage with a girl. To add insult to the injury, my upbringing has led me to struggle with paranoia and me psychoanalyzing every detail of an exchange I have with an attractive individual of the opposite sex.
I'm 6'8" and consider myself to be socially adept enough, well-groomed, well-mannered, and decently-read for my age. I've been told I'm tall to a fault where my towering over everybody is just too intimidating. I work out regularly, and given my height, I'm in no means obese at 225lbs, but I've given up trying to reach the ideal body fat-to-muscle ratio and have prioritized raw strength. I also have hair down to shoulder length, and I personally believe it is harmonious with my facial structure, but it probably lowers my mass appeal. I'm too conservative for the median chronic Instagram Reels scrolling woman, too liberal for the median grass-touching, actively churchgoing woman. I'm old enough for dating apps on paper but too young for them to be a widely used, effective avenue among my peers.
I feel as if all my dating prospects are behind a glass wall that I just can't shatter. I'm not some unkempt maladjust, but my circumstances have made it difficult for me to develop the same connections that many people at my age do. I've been told that this is bound to improve the second I get to college, where there is a density of like-minded cohorts, but right now I can only say that I'll believe it when I see it.
Given your circumstances, stop worrying about it until you get to college. When in college, get 2-3 female friends that you won't try to get romantically entangled with. Use them to learn how to be comfortable around women as a man, learn how to drop the "I'm not like all the other normies" mentality that you mentioned in other replies, even if you're not like them, you're probably overestimating how different you're anyway, that's how most people are and you're going to be surrounded by people like that your whole life anyway, so just accept it. Stop disqualifying yourself with premade assumptions (too conservative, too liberal, blah blah blah) from social situations, treat everything as an opportunity to get better. Eventually, everything will fall into place. You'll level up your social skills, your women friends will be your social proof that you're normal and will likely help you find someone to date. Good luck
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