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Culture War Roundup for the week of July 20, 2026

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My wife's sister flakes on dating app guys a lot, which I see as a spectator since I'm living next door to her. Generally more out of pure flakiness, hypochondria and being loathe to leave her K-Dramas than due to swapping to chads or whatever. From what I've seen she's a chronic #2er, but I feel that the more time I've spent with female friends and/or involved tangentially in my Wife's social circle talking about online dating there's just a ton of genuine flakiness and people massively overrate the whole double-booking thing. Maybe I'm overindexing for Asian, non-promiscuous girls who trend a lot more KHHV than serial daters but I know a lot of very timid, passive girls towards dating who'll psych themselves for essentially no reason.

A few times women have been honest and said it was because there was another guy they were more interested in, "sorry, I don't know how online dating works."

I told them it works exactly how they're doing it, just typically with less honesty.

I'm sure that happens but it's more that people have a ton of parallel threads and might be on date 5 with Guy A and Date 1 with Guy B as opposed to straight up double booking individual slots, IMO.

Ah, the selective disappearance of women’s supposedly superior communication and social skills, and ability to read the room.

They know how online dating works, all right. It’s just that a lot of how it works is women jerking men around and wasting men’s time and energy.

This showed up in my jannie queue and before I even opened the context to see what the conversation was about I knew it was gonna be @Sloot.

"A real man doesn't complain."

I swear almost all Zoomer women have debilitating anxiety. When my department used to go out to lunch every week, I had multiple female Zoomer coworkers ask me to order for them, because they had too much anxiety to order from a stranger. They eventually began to complain if we went anywhere that wouldn’t let you order from a kiosk or iPad, since I and my other older coworkers refused to coddle them in that way. Even the ones who could handle ordering their own food couldn’t handle phone calls. They’d all, without exception, rather cancel an event than spend five minutes trying to work out the details over the phone. And this is even with their friends and coworkers, not people they don’t know. If they can’t figure everything out via text and email, they’d rather skip and stay home. It’s insane.

I think there's a combination of increased anxiety, and also the realization that it's really conversational checkmate for avoiding anything you don't want to do. Once you've declared anxiety it means that whatever's annoying you is a bully who isn't taking into account your situation of need, essentially.

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