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If you wanted to ride the whirlwind, right after she first used the phrase, you should've said something like, "if you play your cards right, I'll show you some white supremacy," and then given her a deadpan-but-menacing look. (@Sloot can undoubtedly provide a much better line).
But seriously, you took the wise course. There is a certain type of woman whose behavior goes far beyond shit tests. It is sometimes presented in the context of "being a brat," but it involves behaving like a poorly socialized toddler and wanting a man who will put her in line. They are not happy unless all interactions are a power struggle where they can try to act however they want and the man has to corral them. Reasoning, cooperation, mutual respect, and the like all mean nothing. For them, a man must be able to make her submit to his authority, or he's weak and not worthy of her.
I have encountered several such women and found interactions with them exhausting. It seems like they are after physical violence (and I don't mean a fun spanking) because the bad behavior reaches a point where a backhand is the only correction. I'm a boring PMC white guy and my pimp hand is weak--using violence to keep a woman in line is not in my DNA. Aside from that, I'd also like to avoid DV convictions.
There is no long-term potential with women like that unless you're Iceberg Slim.
Pretty sure if I had tried anything like that, I would have gotten an affronted "how dare you" reaction.
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