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You should be careful about how you read the DA's statement, they are almost certainly doing damage control until proven otherwise.
She reportedly told investigators at the time that she 100% believed she was raped and that only the initial encounters were consensual.
She also described being higher than she's ever been and being incapacitated. Additionally she was on marijuana, ketamine and alcohol. That could absolutely cause memory problems that don't resolve until later. My personal experience with ketamine is that it can be confusing as fuck and that's without adding alcohol and marijuana.
It sounds like she had a lot to process and didn't report it until two weeks later after some friends encouraged her.
Anyway we really don't know anything yet. My guess is she wanted to have sex with some of the men when she got drunk but after she was drunk she was offered the ketamine for the first time (not off the guy's penis) and after that it went into non-consensual territory.
Group sex on drugs is super fun but if you didn't all agree to fuck before you got high you're asking for trouble because this is very much how people end up incapacitated and have unwanted sexual encounters.
The guys were drunk and on ketamine too. Some of her descriptions of the end indicate that they were worse off than her. Did she rape them?
Maybe!
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This should probably be applied to both sides of the story.
How reliable are such resolutions?
This is how I'd rephrase that...
Sure I'm not saying her story is automatically more credible I would just not dismiss it so easily.
Which part of her story am I supposed to not dismiss easily?
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