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Wellness Wednesday for October 7, 2026

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New Year's resolution check-in:

  • Posted my twenty-second blog post on Sunday, a review of Silent Hill 2 expanded from this comment.
  • Went to the gym three times last week (only cardio), and again last night. I can deadlift 1.82x my bodyweight, squat 1.33x and bench press 0.82x.
  • Have not consumed any pornography since waking up on January 1st.

How goes it @self_made_human, @thejdizzler, @birb_cromble, @ThomasdelVasto and @falling-star?

  1. Work: nothing new to report.
  2. Fitness. Taper time! When the weather has been cool I've been having fantastic workouts, but otherwise I have been a bit off. Aiming for 2:42 I think and will pick up the second half to go under 2:40 if I feel good.
  3. Intellectual stuff: Finished Dance finally and starting on War and Peace with my girlfriend. I want to be reading (and/or meditating) way more, but I've developed a bit of a scrolling problem that seems to be somewhat anxiety inducing (as well as time wasting). I suspect that this problem comes from having a bit of an extreme attitude when it comes to reading and other intellectual activities. I "have to" do my hour of Spanish or my Spanish grammar book, and so rather than read some Joe Abercrombie or Game of Thrones, activities I actually have energy for, I just scroll or play Pokemon showdown or something stupid.
  4. Finances: Last month ended up being about a 13% savings rate. I'm aiming for about 15% this month, and hoping I can increase it to 20% by the end of the year. Spending so far this month $1539.
  5. Dating. Hung out with the girlfriend twice last week, things are going well. I masturbated once last week and once this week, but not to porn (which would be cheating).
  6. Tarot. No session this week.
  7. Socializing: went to get beers with my friends and introduced the girlfriend. Also went to a cool wine bar with my roommate Friday night, but we stayed out a bit late.
  8. Screen time: 1.2 hours phone
  9. Meditation: slipped back to only three times a week.

What did your friends make of your missus (and vice versa)?

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