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It’s high stress because unlike males, there’s no real role to slot into. You have to sort of make one, somewhere on the spectrum between pseudo Amish trad wife and ball busting girl boss dyke. And because Theres such a wide range of potential womanhood, there’s no target to aim for, nor can anyone help you understand the role or how to achieve it. You had thousands of years where this wasn’t true and had few or no girls deciding that they were men. Women knew how to help their girls as men knew how to help their boys because the end goal was known
'unlike males'? What real roles do adolescent males have today to slot into?
I think @MaiqTheTrue is quite correct about this. There are so many male archetypes to choose from both throughout history and throughout fiction media. Almost any type of path you can imagine has already been charted. Even if you're a loser failure incel, that's still a known archetype; you still have an identity, you still have a community of people like you and a place in that community. And who knows, maybe you'll turn it around and eventually become successful and make something of yourself. That too is a known quantity, a story that has been written many times: the tortured soul, the misunderstood genius who is only appreciated by posterity, etc.
Regardless of what you think about the female archetypes and role models on offer, it's pretty undeniable that there are simply fewer of them. You can be a wife and mother, and frankly I think many (most?) women would still be quite happy enough with that, although the cultural (not to mention economic) status of motherhood is more tenuous than it has ever been. You can also be a woke feminist political agitator, although that will understandably be unappealing to women who are not already fully committed to that ideology.
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