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You haven't posted any evidence when you said the nurse was also wrong, you posted the testimony of one of the sides of the conflict, and explicitly haven't waited for any of the evidence.
I also never said you were specifically in favor of TWAW, so I don't see what I should update.
So why do you think I "hit peak trans recently"? In what way do you think my views shifted?
I already explained my take on their encounter. As several other people have pointed out to you, both parties can be acting kind of like jerks, that doesn't mean one party (in this case, the kids) wasn't acting like bigger jerks. You don't have to agree with me that the nurse was not 100% innocent and in completely in the right, but at least recognize this is more like a melodrama where people are getting heated up over what's ultimately a nothingburger, and not a court case where one side is Right and the other side is Wrong. There are situations where even if you are legally and morally in the right, you can be an ass about it and deal with the other party in a less than ideal fashion. That you seem unwilling to even engage with any premise other than one that colors strictly within black and white borders is, well, if I were going to be as snarky and uncharitable as you, I would say "in character." Instead, I don't think you actually think that way, I think you are just seeing this encounter entirely through a tribal lens.
Because even though trans activism hasn't changed much over the lifetime of TheMotte (including the subreddit), you started speaking out against it only recently.
What are you talking about? No one "pointed it out to me", this was what SubstantialFrivolity said before I even joined the conversation, and I have two issues with it:
Even if everything happened as you described it, she didn't act like a jerk. Even kind of. You need to actually argue for it.
What you provided is not evidence.
With SubstantialFrivolity there's the additional issue that when one side is acting so much worse than the other, and you're putting the actions off the party that was acting better under a microscope, that's ridiculously unfair. The result is people like BurdensomeCount claiming she was using her privilege to take the bike away from them.
What I say about trans now is not much different from what I've always said about trans. I may agree that the trend has snowballed, which is of greater concern. You seem to be selectively noticing things.
I think you are very poor at modeling people to whom you've decided you are in opposition.
*Shrug*
I don't know what's going on inside your head any more than you know how you come off to others. I freely admit my memory isn't the best, maybe yours is better and you can maintain neutrality when discussing yourself, but it's only natural for people to be biased in their own favor, so absent evidence to the contrary I'd bet that whole bit about selective memory applies just the same to you.
Selective noticing is a plague I guess, because I noticed the same thing. Maybe @Amadan's opinion hasn't changed, but his willingness to express it definitely has.
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