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"Gentlemen" of the motte. What do you expect in return for... being a gentleman.
I was reading a post in my cities subreddit asking "Do you give up your metroseat for women?".
Most responses were along the lines of "no unless they are pregnant". But some were really making an attempt to claim the moral highground. "My mom raised me to be a gentlemen" from the males to "there are no more gentlemen!" From the females.
I was left thinking thats well and good. But no man is actually taking a purely raw deal just because right? He must expect something in return, not from the individual woman, but the social structure as a whole. I dont know.
What is that something?
What benefit do I get? The itch of how I would feel if I were sitting down and a woman/older man were standing up goes away.
I could reason out that it trains one to courtesy, to think of others, to consider oneself in relation to others in a certain way. I could speculate that training causes one to carry oneself in a certain way, which will cause people to treat you well.
But I'm not sure I really buy that project. It's kinda cope. It just is how I was raised, and what I think is right, and if I don't I'll get itchy.
From the Stoic perspective, it is an opportunity to undertake a discomfort, for the purpose of greater appreciation for the seats you occasion to enjoy. In this sense, being able to go without is a privilege that wards off ingratitude and unhappiness.
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