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Find a new girlfriend. Someone who not an Indian feminist. Indian women for whatever reason seem to latch on to progressive political whining with glee. Often being of the most radical type. It’s hard to imagine someone like that being a good partner. This type of person is often quite mercenary and will drop you if you hit a bumpy patch. I imagine there are an abundance of traditional women available, in absolute terms if not relative.
Short of that, tell her she will be in good company in the US. There will be endless women networking events, affirmative action, protests to join, causes to agitate for, white people to complain about. All with institutional, judicial, and community support. She’ll get lots of positive attention for all her political action. She could be special. Probabaly more special than she is in India currently. I’m going to guess she’s not a BJP fan, though i don’t know much about Indian politics. If you believe the progressive party line to the extent that they have one on India, he’s the 21st century hitler. I’d imagine he’s broadly popular and you don’t get much status from bitching about him at home.
I'd rather not find a new girlfriend, thanks. I'm rather attached to this one.
She might have SocJus tendencies, but that comes from having very normie tastes in social media. She tolerates my rather heterodox views, so I can only return the favor.
I'm sure there are some conservative Indians for whom this is counts as good advice, but they are categorically not me. I wouldn't marry an Indian equivalent of a "trad wife" if you paid me money to.
And even if I were to grant you your take on liberal Indian women (partially true as it is), she'd be "one of the good ones" in my eyes.
I have no end of personal flaws, and she loves me nonetheless and is fiercely loyal to a fault.
If it was a straight up fight between my desire to go to the US (with Green Card in hand) and staying with her, it would be a painful tradeoff but I would still pick her.
I had to remind myself that you really do not know this woman.
I despise Modi myself, but he's no Hitler. I like to think my political views are more nuanced than that.
Dont listen to these ppl. Live your own life. You seem happy so cherish what you have. Try to live your dreams mate, canada or aus arent too bad anyway.
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...Something it might help to keep in mind is that you're, like, two or three standard deviations more cheerful and positive in your outlook than a lot of the regulars here, who, having spent some time marinating in the unique local atmosphere, tend to have formed a pachyderm-like outer husk of bitter, misanthropic cynicism, the better to endure the chronic disappointment inherent to chronicling humanity's failures. It can take some of us a bit of time to shake the rust off and switch gears, and a few of us are just... permanently stuck in the frowny-face setting. Sloot in particular, I think, believes that they have divined the fundamental nature of all women, and does not like what they think they've found.
Personally, I find your attitude and general approach quite refreshing, so thanks for that. You're a good egg.
That was strangely touching, thank you.
While we have our differences, I certainly respect you as a poster for being both intelligent and articulate.
Better to meet people who have very different worldviews, but well fleshed out ones, than those with the same but half baked, in my eyes (I'd love to have both, but you can see with my idiosyncrasies that's quite a big ask!)
At least unlike many others, I am mostly content to live and let live; and you seem the same. That's enough for us to all get along, as far as I can see it.
I look forward to your comments in general!
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Hah, thank you for pointing out this tendency in such flowery language. I half-thought I was going crazy with how negative all the comments here are.
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