The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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Are you emotionally affected by conflict away from your keyboard or is this just an interwebs argument sort of thing? I am not a conflict avoidant person and conflict in life has rarely emotionally affected me past the encounter. When I was younger, I found that because I was more honest online I felt more vulnerable and was more affected by the sort of behavior you're describing.
My tip is exposure therapy more or less. Deliberately expose yourself to the situations and users you're talking about and set a rule where if you find yourself in the positions you're talking about, shut your computer off and go do something physical outside. Dive down those holes, but force yourself walk away! This strategy worked to align my thoughts (this is just silly arguments on the interwebs) with my emotional sensitivity. Others may suggest to avoid those places and post here, but I do not believe avoiding struggles you have in life is a long term strategy for success in the world and the sensitivity you're describing is something I would nip in the bud to help you even in places you more or less like. You need to be able to be involved in difficult, emotional situations and it not cause you lasting emotional suffering afterwards.
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