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PaperclipPerfector  9mo ago (text post)   2744 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for August 6, 2023

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A lot of the time when dating comes up, someone will say “go and join your local church”. At least in my case, I go to (Catholic) Mass on Sundays but it’s a church service not a social occasion so I don’t meet people.

What people seem to mean is “join a community centred around a church” which is a rather different thing. Can anyone give me some advice about what kind of groups / notices I ought to look for? I’m not in Europe or America which makes things a bit harder.

Catholic Church looking to meet women? Check their young adult groups, probably advertised in the bulletin which no one normally reads. You might also just be in the wrong parish- in the USA at least there are definitely parishes with young people and parishes without. You might also check to see what your diocese has on offer for non-parish based activities. I’m assuming you’re in a western-ish developed country because you’re asking about dating; most dioceses in wealthy countries have diocese-wide young adult events at least occasionally.

Thanks, I’ll try that.

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