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Wellness Wednesday for October 4, 2023

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

  • Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.

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College.

She joined an academic/social club I was already a member of. One tradition was for new members to spend all their time during a couple weeks in a library study room when they weren't in class to bond, older members would bounce in and out. I attribute this absolutely gorgeous woman falling for me primarily to that context: I had all the social proof in the universe right there, everyone knew me and in an academic context I came across pretty alpha.

She basically formed a plan to break me up with my mediocre then-gf and sleep with me. She is very goal oriented. I initially did not see her as an appropriate sexual target because of the context, and was fairly oblivious, thought we were just becoming really good friends. She joked to a friend years later, when she thought I couldn't hear, that she was like a falcon and I was like a rabbit running across a field.

Within a year of beginning to date, she has reserved (her first initial)(my last name)@gmail. She knew what she wanted, and she got it.

My god feminine agency is hot. I hope your wife is teaching this behaviour to the next generation.

Within a year of beginning to date, she has reserved (her first initial)(my last name)@gmail. She knew what she wanted, and she got it.

Adorable.