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PaperclipPerfector  6mo ago (text post)   2228 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for October 20, 2023

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Im turning 26 soon and am single. I dont think that might change very soon.

I got a mini heart attack though when I realized that time is ticking and the pool will only get smaller geometrically from now onwards.

I have strong career growth and earn more than most my age. But as most men in tech know, this doesnt help as much as we'd like.

Do I continue panicking and start taking drastic measures? (Like moving to a different countries or whatever,I live in a particularly bad one in terms of m:f ratio)

My biggest hurdle is a lack of venues to meet women at. Work and friends wont help.

Im turning 26 soon and am single. I dont think that might change very soon.

I got a mini heart attack though when I realized that time is ticking and the pool will only get smaller geometrically from now onwards.

I have nothing in particular to recommend for or against any particular action, but dude, time is not really ticking, your pool isn't getting smaller geometrically, unless you have some very strong personal preference for marrying someone precisely your age or older.

If I recall your vague personal details correctly, you are professionally successful, you work out and eat right and take care of yourself, you have a good relationship with your family, I know from interacting with you that you are clever and can carry an interesting conversation on a variety of topics.. 26 isn't the cliff, it's the very start of your peak. You are just entering the years when women from 20-30 will all find you relatively hot and relatively relatable, when you will have actual accomplishments to show rather than just potential, when you can strike out on your own and do something great. At the very least, you have six-ish years before you start to be concerned in terms of a shrinking dating pool.

This is the best time to date in your life, tbh. If you want to make drastic lifestyle changes to improve your odds, it will just improve them further.

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